2020 has been a year of enormous change.
We’ve lived through almost an entire year of upheaval with varying degrees of success in our coping methods. But this year has also been an extreme example of life-shattering imposed change.
Within this larger shift, we also experience smaller alterations and modifications in our lives. Using these less fear-inducing changes as a training ground, we can grow our resilience and coping skills to prepare us to handle big changes.
By all accounts, 2021 is likely to require us to continue adapting to new ways of thinking, acting, and being.
If we have the mindset that change is problematic and should not happen then we’ll experience greater discomfort and suffering. The Buddha called this the second arrow. The first arrow is the incident that created the pain, e.g. touching a hot pot without a glove and getting burned. The second arrow is the mental anguish or irritation we feel towards ourselves for making the mistake.
The only way to successfully work with and truly grasp life’s impermanent nature is to remain present, and to learn to move with its fluctuating rhythm.
Reflect on the following insights to help grow your resilience and flexibility.
Make mental and journal notes of your coping methods for the challenges you’ve overcome. Honor your struggle and celebrate your successes in skillfully coping and adapting. Know that you have come out stronger for having undergone those changes.
May you meet change with calm acceptance and courage.