Do you feel tired, uninspired, and incapable of fulfilling your life goals?
You may be leaking energy. This is quite a common experience which can happen in many ways, over time, and unless you are sensitive, it may be beyond your awareness. One steady way we lose our vitality, drive, or oomph is by simply putting up with or tolerating daily annoyances like putting off paying bills, not cleaning out the garage or cupboards, or not dealing with something bigger such as speaking to friends who always show up late, or your habit of not saying no, or of not following through after researching a decision.
In energy healing work, we bring relief and healing to clients by following the principle of restoring balance to a middle range. In biology this is called homeostasis. For instance, if someone’s energy is too high or hyperactive, we bring it down, if they are too cold, we warm them up, or if the person’s energy is sluggish, we crank it up and so on.
Restoring balance is the key to good health, a happier mind state, and greater effectiveness and success in life. You are better able to achieve your dreams and manifest the life you envision when you get rid of the things that drain your vitality, and when you surround yourself with things that boost your energy.
Living from all aspects of our being also helps create balance. If 90% of our life is spent working, then rest, family, relationships, and other priorities will suffer. So finding a healthy balance between working (tension) and resting (relaxation/play time) is crucial.
We lose energy in different ways and these drains should be plugged as soon as you discover them. The effect of not plugging the leaks can lead to many symptoms. See how many you recognize in yourself:
Mental & Physical Exhaustion
We are overworked with few opportunities for relaxation and meaningful connection in a hyper busy world. Each day we encounter ever shortening deadlines, multiple projects, and home and social demands that leave us overextended. It is challenging in this midst to find a way of soothing and calming our nervous systems. Contrary to common opinion, watching television or playing video games does not relax, but actually drains us; this is especially true if we watch the news constantly. To sustain ourselves in this grueling schedule we resort to stimulants like caffeine and energy drinks or even drugs, which may get us through the day, but in effect we are running on empty. A depleted and unbalanced body and mind that is slowly leaking energy is one that is prone to illness and disease.
Illness and disease
Our bodies use lots of energy to actively fight infections, diseases, and even when doing regular maintenance like cleaning or repairing damaged tissue, etc. Be mindful of the levels of mental and emotional stress, and physical exertion you are experiencing as this will help you recognize when your body is slipping into imbalance due to energy loss. Disease sets in easily when energy imbalances persist.
In energy healing practices like Reiki and Pranic healing, the healer works within the biomagnetic (life force) field surrounding a body where the onset of disease is first revealed as energetic distortions or imbalances. Working with the body’s natural wisdom, healers create conducive conditions for healing to occur.
Whenever we are strongly attracted or averse to things, situations, or people, our emotions become overactive and obsessive. Our altered perception of the situation or person is exacerbated by the stories we fabricate about the desired or hated object. As our thoughts spin in rumination, our emotions heighten so that they become easily triggered. Losing connection to our inner selves, in this way, leads us to lose life force energy because we are not living our truth. In other words we aren’t being authentic and accepting of ourselves. So if we are playing roles that don’t resonate with our deeper selves or we base our feelings on external circumstances, we will not only be at the mercy of every external situation, but we also lose energy.
Being present with an open heart and mind and simply letting ourselves and others just be is how we can begin to rebuild our inner connection to self. From this place of strength and stability, we can tackle any emotional situation with a calm presence.
Healthy Boundaries & Saying No
Not having healthy boundaries is a huge energetic drain. If, however, your boundaries are clear and firm, this lets you and others know what you will allow, what protects you and allows you to thrive. Boundaries like you can’t yell at or hit me, let people know what you will and won’t tolerate. We lose energy whenever we quietly let someone criticize or tease us, or take advantage of us.
We can train ourselves to say no and thereby avoid feeling overwhelmed by people and situations. Start out by saying no in smaller inconsequential matters or things (like saying no to a weekly dinner invitation with friends). Once you grow your self-confidence with this hurdle, work your way up to declining those things you feel obligated to do.
No matter what goal you aspire to in life, it is going to require your full authentic presence and energy. Begin by taking stock of your life and noticing what drains and what energizes you.
May you be filled with energy and purpose.